Pray Like You Mean It

In my last post, I suggested a way to add richness to your prayer life. In this post, I want to share what I do to give as much meaning as possible to my prayers. I am not saying this is the best way for everyone, but it is one way to build a habit of prayer. Jesus told His disciples that they should always pray; Paul told his readers to pray constantly. I don’t think they meant that we should be saying prayers every waking hour but that an attitude of prayer should undergird all our activities. Whatever happens in our daily lives, we must be aware that God is in it, and we should respond accordingly.

Along with an attitude of constant prayer, I believe Christians should have set times of prayer every day if possible. For the person who claims to have no time for prayer, I must ask if their relationship with God is genuine. Can anyone honestly say they love another deeply but refuse to communicate with them when the means are readily available? If the daily schedule truly is full, I suggest setting the alarm a little earlier; God will reward the effort far beyond the loss of a few minutes of sleep.

I will admit that being retired allows me the privilege of spending considerably more time in prayer than I could while working. However, anyone who really wants to can carve out a bit of time to attempt something like I am going to suggest. I am going to draw from my book, A Life of Prayer, for these suggestions. I adapted them from the well-known acronym ACTS for Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, and Supplication. I added an “I” for intercession. I follow the ACTSI pattern every day with the people and circumstances currently on my heart.

“A” is for adoration. I have expanded this to include several more “A” words. I begin my prayer time expressing my adoration for God because of all He has done for me. I acclaim Him as my Lord. I admire Him for His excellence. I often use Scripture passages such as 1 Chronicles 29:11-14 or Revelation 5:12-13 or others to recite the glory due to God. I then turn inward to accept God’s grace and mercy I so badly need; I affirm His authority over my life and my family; I align myself with His will for my life. I often pray Scripture that supports each of those actions. That’s a bunch of “A” words to ground my prayers in God’s Word and His will for me.

The “C” in ACTS is for confession. I begin by agreeing with Scripture that I am not worthy to receive all the wonderful things God has granted me. I confess that without the robe of Jesus’ righteousness upon me, I am a needy, fallen creature. I try to recall any faulty actions or inactions that occur to me and ask for forgiveness. I confess that without the Spirit’s help, I am powerless to live as I am supposed to as Christ’s brother. This is the essence of confession: we tell God what He already knows about us. This act has a cleansing effect for me.

What follows naturally from confession is the “T” for thanksgiving. I thank Jesus that He bore my sin – paid the penalty that I owed. I thank the Lord for His time on earth demonstrating how I am supposed to live. I thank the Father for being willing to send His Son. I thank God for giving us the Word so we can get to know Him and learn what He expects of us. I thank God for the innumerable blessings He has bestowed throughout my life: my wife, my children and grandchildren, our financial security, our health (relative though it may be), my opportunities to serve Him, the air I breathe, the beauty of the earth, and even the trials He sends because I know they are designed to help me grow up into Christ.

The “S” in ACTS is for supplication. As you might imagine, by this point in my morning prayers I have already spent a bit of time. I believe this is important because I need to have the right attitude before I ask God for anything. The “A” and the “C” and the “T” should have put me in my place relative to my Heavenly Father: His humble servant expecting nothing but reveling in His incredible grace. I try to follow the advice of Graham Cooke who said we should seek God’s will concerning our requests before we begin to pray for them.

This practice should be used before praying for someone’s healing, I ask God several questions before I begin to pray for healing. Is He calling the person home to be with Him; healing would postpone that wonderful reality. Has He allowed the sickness to bring about growth in the person or someone around him. If you are praying for a person’s deliverance from another type of trial, the same approach would be appropriate. If you are asking for a material blessing – a car, a new home, or anything physical – you should wait to hear from God whether it is something He wishes you to have. If you truly believe prayer is a dialogue, you can wait for God’s response before you pray for anything specific.

While you are waiting for clarity about a request, you can still pray “generic” prayers such as God’s blessing or the person’s openness to whatever God is doing or for peace within the circle of the person’s family and friends. It is possible to pray that God’s will be done even when we don’t know what it is. That is how we align ourselves with whatever God wants to do in the situation. This underscores the need to be listening as well as speaking during our prayer time.

 I once had a dear friend who had terminal cancer. Our whole church prayed fervently that God would miraculously heal him. He did not. In the midst of those prayers though, we saw our friend’s witness grow immeasurably as he testified to God’s grace in his life, and we turned our prayers into thanksgiving. That man undoubtedly affected more people in his last couple years than in all the time before that. We still miss him, but we marvel at the living lesson of God’s grace that he showed everyone he came in contact with because of the cancer he ultimately succumbed to.

I have added an “I” to ACTS to emphasize the intercessory nature of many prayers. It is a form of supplication, but it involves asking on behalf of someone else. When someone else is undergoing a serious trial, I can intercede on their behalf by asking God to strengthen them. When someone is seeking God’s will about a life circumstance, I can ask God to make His plan known. When someone is undertaking a vital ministry task, I can pray for God’s special anointing on their work. As my prayer life has grown over the years, I find myself asking less for myself while increasingly interceding for others. There is nothing wrong with asking God for personal blessings. However, as the Spirit grows agape-love in your heart, you will find you are more concerned with the welfare of others than of your own.

There is another type of intercession that my sister introduced me to years ago. I think it perfectly fulfills the command to pray continually. My sister told me she prayed what she called prayer bombs. For example, when she hears a siren, she immediately prays that the blood of Jesus would cover the situation whatever it may be. When she sees people arguing or being difficult in public, she prays God’s peace upon them. I took the idea to heart, and as one example, every time I drove past an abortion clinic on my way to school, I prayed that the women inside would change their mind and keep their baby. I admit I also prayed that the whole place would go out of business. (No, I did not pray for a real bomber to make that happen.)

There is one other type of prayer that I occasionally use: warfare prayer. The Apostle Paul often uses warfare imagery to describe our lives as believers. One of the clearest examples is in Ephesians: “Put on the full armor of God, so that you may be able to stand against the stratagems of the devil, because our struggle is not against blood and flesh, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.” We are in a cosmic battle against God’s arch enemy. There are times when rather than praying for something, I feel led to pray against something. Sometimes I must pray against the enemy’s efforts in my own life. Other times, often lately, I feel compelled to pray against the powers of darkness at work in our society either specifically or generally. These prayers are a necessary part of our work on behalf of the Kingdom of God.

That is how I make prayer meaningful in my life. I have a prayer prompter in my computer version of the Faithlife/Logos Bible study program that presents my list of prayer concerns daily, weekly, or on a custom schedule. I pray for each of them as they come up and add whatever else God lays on my heart. I am not suggesting you copy my practice exactly. However, I can testify that being intentional in my prayers and being disciplined to do something every day has been a blessing to me, and I trust that many others have also been blessed because I prayed. Whether you have only a few minutes each day or you have hours to give to prayer, doing so will make your life better, and the kingdom of God will advance if you pray like you mean it.

Related Posts: A Prayer Primer; In Jesus’ Name; Moving Mountains